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Writer Ponders: Can LOVE Be Restored in 2017

Good evening! As a writer, it is difficult to ignore an observance that bears striking contrast to previous years……I have, unfortunately, experiencing such an observation.  I realize that I am taking a risk in choosing to write about this observance publicly –  but- isn’t that what’s at the core of being a writer – bravery!  I don’t expect any responses – I just want to send my observance into the void – Certainly, things will return to normal in the near future. It has to get better than these past few months..because they have felt rather….. different. Like all writers, I like to explore – search ‘high-and-low’ for stories – Research everything my naked eyes absorb.  Around this time of year, I especially look forward to experiencing LOVE in the air – but, I am finding a, surprisingly, limited supply of LOVE to write about. Please hear me out — No, I am not advocating that LOVE is completely non-existent…however, I have been digging for similar observances to what I witnessed in previous years…because I don’t want to believe that LOVE has decreased to such a level that it is alarming me.  Thus, leading me to the question,  – “What has happened to LOVE since my post in 2016?”  I have observed  unusual demands being put on LOVE these days- causing me to ponder – “Where did LOVE go?”  — “Can LOVE be RESTORED in 2017?”  I am hopeful, that in the months ahead, LOVE will find its way back.   In taking this risk, I, also, sincerely hope that I stand alone in this observation –  because I want to believe that LOVE still exists  in this world. I also feel strongly that the cure to all conflicts – is to share LOVE.  Allow me to share some LOVE today be presenting a portion of one of my favorite posts about  TRUE LOVE —————– From: Daily Writer Girl archives………… True love is a unique feeling. It’s the type of feeling you experience that you can measure every relationship against. It’s a feeling you share with one unique individual that you are drawn so strongly towards  – like two powerful magnets connecting. A type of relationship that allows you to experience emotions so strong and so deep that it does not equate to any other emotion that you will be exposed to in your life – which is what makes it ‘unique’. I am not speaking of passing attractions or fixes to temporary urges because ‘true love’ in no way compares to such false emotions. ‘True love’ is authentic! ‘True love’ is so real that it makes you wonder if this ‘level of real’ is even possible – which is why some people feel like they are ‘simply dreaming’. ‘True love’ is very real!  For those of you who have found ‘true love’ —  you know what I mean by the way you look at each other and everything else around you becomes a blurrrrr; the way your hand feels so secure in theirs when they meet and your fingers lock immediately – like a piece of a puzzle that fits perfectly in place; the way you hug so tightly – because you never want to let go – that you actually forget, in that moment, that you ‘need’ air to breathe; the way you can detect their very voice in a room full of many loud voices;  the way you stare at the cell phone after talking for hours – as if they are going to climb out of that tiny screen and jump into your arms;  the way you can detect their very scent even if they were in a candle store with all the many fragrances colliding in the air; the way one word takes on a new meaning as a code that only the two of you can decipher; and oooh the way you kiss this particular person – it is more intimate than any other kiss you ever experienced – – each one feeling like your very first combined with the fear of it being you very last exudes deep passion — is so very intimate that the feeling lingers for hours, sometimes days, and, yes, sometimes years. Many people will only get to experience this once in their lifetime. A few are fortunate and get a second chance, or even a third – but it is hard for me to believe that one would get many chances because this experience is so unique that these two people want to feel this way forever – which is why they invest time, patience, and whatever is necessary to nurture such a unique experience to never lose it. Many of us are so busy or distracted that we, sadly, allow it to pass-on-by! To those of you who have never experienced true love, my heart aches for you because this is the type of emotion that leaves an everlasting imprint on your heart – one that I feel everyone should have the opportunity to experience at least once in their lifetime. For those of you who let this unique love slip through your fingers – I say do not give up on love! For those of you who fear letting someone know that you feel any of these emotions in their presence – I encourage you to be brave enough to share it because you lose less when you share ‘real love’ – try looking at your fear from this positive point of view – even if you get rejected, you will feel love in your own heart from the courage you exercised to risk exposing your feelings to an uncertain outcome. Another benefit is that you will no longer go through life ‘wondering’ – “What if they are feeling the same towards me? How will I know unless I tell them how I feel?”   Taking action to get answers to these lingering questions brings clarity in your heart. Once you gain such clarity, you can make room for true love to enter your heart!  I want to close my post today with a snippet of a short poem that I have treasured for many years. I do not have a clue who owns these amazingly patterned words – in honoring credit to them – I am identifying them as “Unknown” and thank them for writing these motivational words — “The love in your heart was not put there to stay — love is not love until you give it away!”

© Daily Writer Girl 02/14/2017

 

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Writer Discovers Key To Having a Joyful 30-Day Novel Writing Experience

Good evening! Play or Work! How do you feel when you approach your space to write? As many of you already know, I am a professed perfectionist…I’ve been committed to identifying the strengths in being a perfectionist to intentionally guide my writing behavior. My first attempt at NaNoWriMo was not easy – I was really ready to surrender to defeat – fortunately, I had strong support – my loving daughter kept encouraging me with Mr. Walt Disney’s” words – “Keep Moving Forward!” – each time she witnessed me staring at my laptop screen from the middle of the 30-day challenge clear to the very end. Then, after feeling that I had exhausted all my creativity at 30,000 words and only 7 Days left on the calendar – my wise son used reverse psychology on me with the same words I would shower on him as a youth — here’s how that dialogue exchange unfolded – Me: “I have nothing more to add to this story, I have failed at my first attempt to complete this writing challenge!” Son, “Mom, how do you know you can’t win this writing challenge — UNLESS you keep writing! You won’t know until you try to finish! Just keep writing and watch what happens!”  Wow! How did I get such smart and savvy children! Their belief in my ability pushed me to dig deep inside my soul and utilize every ounce of my creative ability. I sacrificed sleep to complete 8,000 words in one day – which motivated to challenge myself to produce a higher daily word count – 2 days later, I sacrificed sleep again to produce 10,000 words. One day before the deadline — as I was compiling my files to form my completed story – I discovered an isolated folder I had not included in my word calculation that belonged in my story – a bonus – this put me slightly over the finish line goal of 50,000 words – earning myself a 1st time NaNoWriMo WINNER certificate for 2013. Although it was fun, it felt like a job – I didn’t want a skill I highly valued to feel like work. I decided to examine each of my writing episodes that I experienced during that 30-day period…my goal was to isolate moments my experience felt like play and those that felt like work. I discovered that my joyful writing moments happened when I trusted my ability to create more words – this led me to promise myself each following year to trust my writing ability! It worked! Trust is the key! — Trust allowed me to have a joyful writing experience. Trust took away self-doubt and exhaustion that is associated with work – trust replaced my feelings with calm and confidence that is associated with play. I find much more joy in my 30-day writing challenge when it feels like play. I look forward to entering my play zone in just 11 Days – 3 hours – and 10 minutes.

© Daily Writer Girl 10/20/2016

 

 

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True Love Inspires Writer in 2016

Good afternoon! I am inspired, again, to write about true love because every store I enter has created an environment to entice our memory of love. Some people walking through will feel happiness and some will feel sadness. True love is a unique feeling. It’s the type of feeling you experience that you can measure every relationship against. It’s a feeling you share with one unique individual that you are drawn so strongly towards  – like two powerful magnets connecting. A type of relationship that allows you to experience emotions so strong and so deep that it does not equate to any other emotion that you will be exposed to in your life – which is what makes it ‘unique’. I am not speaking of passing attractions or fixes to temporary urges because ‘true love’ in no way compares to such false emotions. ‘True love’ is authentic! ‘True love’ is so real that it makes you wonder if this ‘level of real’ is even possible – which is why some people feel like they are ‘simply dreaming’. ‘True love’ is very real!  For those of you who have found ‘true love’ —  you know what I mean by the way you look at each other and everything else around you becomes a blurrrrr; the way your hand feels so secure in theirs when they meet and your fingers lock immediately – like a piece of a puzzle that fits perfectly in place; the way you hug so tightly – because you never want to let go – that you actually forget, in that moment, that you ‘need’ air to breathe; the way you can detect their very voice in a room full of many loud voices;  the way you stare at the cell phone after talking for hours – as if they are going to climb out of that tiny screen and jump into your arms;  the way you can detect their very scent even if they were in a candle store with all the many fragrances colliding in the air; the way one word takes on a new meaning as a code that only the two of you can decipher; and oooh the way you kiss this particular person – it is more intimate than any other kiss you ever experienced – – each one feeling like your very first combined with the fear of it being you very last exudes deep passion — is so very intimate that the feeling lingers for hours, sometimes days, and, yes, sometimes years. Many people will only get to experience this once in their lifetime. A few are fortunate and get a second chance, or even a third – but it is hard for me to believe that one would get many chances because this experience is so unique that these two people want to feel this way forever – which is why they invest time, patience, and whatever is necessary to nurture such a unique experience to never lose it. Many of us are so busy or distracted that we, sadly, allow it to pass-on-by! To those of you who have never experienced true love, my heart aches for you because this is the type of emotion that leaves an everlasting imprint on your heart – one that I feel everyone should have the opportunity to experience at least once in their lifetime. For those of you who let this unique love slip through your fingers – I say do not give up on love! For those of you who fear letting someone know that you feel any of these emotions in their presence – I encourage you to be brave enough to share it because you lose less when you share ‘real love’ – try looking at your fear from this positive point of view – even if you get rejected, you will feel love in your own heart from the courage you exercised to risk exposing your feelings to an uncertain outcome. Another benefit is that you will no longer go through life ‘wondering’ – “What if they are feeling the same towards me? How will I know unless I tell them how I feel?”   Taking action to get answers to these lingering questions brings clarity in your heart. Once you gain such clarity, you can make room for true love to enter your heart!  I want to close my post today with a snippet of a short poem that I have treasured for many years. I do not have a clue who owns these amazingly patterned words – in honoring credit to them – I am identifying them as “Unknown” and thank them for writing these motivational words — “The love in your heart was not put there to stay — love is not love until you give it away!”

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True Love Inspires Writer

Good morning! Yes, I was so inspired after my post last night that I wrote until 2am. Today, I am inspired to write about true love because every store I enter has created an environment to entice our memory of love. Some people walking through will feel happiness and some will feel sadness. True love is a unique feeling. It’s the type of feeling you experience that you can measure every relationship against. It’s a feeling you share with one unique individual that you are drawn so strongly towards  – like two powerful magnets connecting. A type of relationship that allows you to experience emotions so strong and so deep that it does not equate to any other emotion that you will be exposed to in your life – which is what makes it ‘unique’. I am not speaking of passing attractions or fixes to temporary urges because ‘true love’ in no way compares to such false emotions. ‘True love’ is authentic! ‘True love’ is so real that it makes you wonder if this ‘level of real’ is even possible – which is why some people feel like they are ‘simply dreaming’. ‘True love’ is very real!  For those of you who have found ‘true love’ —  you know what I mean by the way you look at each other and everything else around you becomes a blurrrrr; the way your hand feels so secure in theirs when they meet and your fingers lock immediately – like a piece of a puzzle that fits perfectly in place; the way you hug so tightly – because you never want to let go – that you actually forget, in that moment, that you ‘need’ air to breathe; the way you can detect their very voice in a room full of many loud voices;  the way you stare at the cell phone after talking for hours – as if they are going to climb out of that tiny screen and jump into your arms;  the way you can detect their very scent even if they were in a candle store with all the many fragrances colliding in the air; the way one word takes on a new meaning as a code that only the two of you can decipher; and oooh the way you kiss this particular person – it is more intimate than any other kiss you ever experienced – – each one feeling like your very first combined with the fear of it being you very last exudes deep passion — is so very intimate that the feeling lingers for hours, sometimes days, and, yes, sometimes years. Many people will only get to experience this once in their lifetime. A few are fortunate and get a second chance, or even a third – but it is hard for me to believe that one would get many chances because this experience is so unique that these two people want to feel this way forever – which is why they invest time, patience, and whatever is necessary to nurture such a unique experience to never lose it. Many of us are so busy or distracted that we, sadly, allow it to pass-on-by! To those of you who have never experienced true love, my heart aches for you because this is the type of emotion that leaves an everlasting imprint on your heart – one that I feel everyone should have the opportunity to experience at least once in their lifetime. For those of you who let this unique love slip through your fingers, as I did – I say do not give up on love — I will not! For those of you who fear letting someone know that you feel any of these emotions in their presence – I encourage you to be brave enough to share it because you lose less when you share ‘real love’ – try looking at your fear from this positive point of view – even if you get rejected, you will feel love in your own heart from the courage you exercised to risk exposing your feelings to an uncertain outcome. Another benefit is that you will no longer go through life ‘wondering’ – “What if they are feeling the same towards me? How will I know unless I tell them how I feel?”   Taking action to get answers to these lingering questions brings clarity in your heart. Once you gain such clarity, you can make room for true love to enter your heart!  I want to close my post today with a snippet of a short poem that I have treasured for many years. I do not have a clue who owns these amazingly patterned words – in honoring credit to them – I am identifying them as “Unknown” and thank them for writing these motivational words — “The love in your heart was not put there to stay — love is not love until you give it away!”

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Connections: Real or False – Know The Difference As A Writer

Good afternoon! Today, I was reading an amazing book; I felt as thought I really connected to the author’s words – which put a warm smile on my face.  This experience today inspired my writing episode. I wonder how often people make ‘real’ connections. As a writer, knowing the difference between a real connection and one that is NOT – is critical to the authenticity of your writing. I have observed many false connections and heard of many as well, as I am sure you have heard the common one, “I thought we made a connection, but I was wrong!” Many heart-breaks result in false connections, many business partnerships fail because of false connections; this is why it is imperative to know what a ‘real connection’ looks like. Allow me to share an observation as a picture of what a connection does NOT look like…I was visiting my local zoo in the indoor enclosed Gorilla section. One of the small Gorillas was sitting at the window with the inside of its hand face open on the glass and staring out. A young lady had positioned herself directly in front of the glass, and placed her human hand, inside face open, against the viewers side of the glass. She was eye-to-eye with this small Gorilla. It would appear, for those who made a quick glance, that this Gorilla and the visitor had made a ‘connection’ as was obvious as many viewers expressed, “Ah!”, while passing through the exhibit. However, in viewing at close range for just a few minutes, one would realize that, although the lady was sitting only the width of the glass that separated them, at eye level, the Gorilla was looking PAST the lady — she sat in that same position for another half hour (my observation time) with a smile expressing joy and amazement that she was connecting with this Gorilla. This was an example of a “false connection” that appeared real. Looking around the exhibit, I observed multiple small Gorillas in this same stance – proving that this was common behavior for the Gorilla – not an eye-to-eye connection. The writer in me wanted to ask the lady if she noticed that the Gorilla was NOT looking into HER eyes, rather PAST her, yet — the compassionate side of me dared not interrupt her perception of connection that was bringing her obvious joy. –Now here’s an observation of a ‘real connection’…A couple we attended an event with, walked ahead of us to say goodby to each other. When we reached them, they were embraced in a passionate kiss before releasing each other to go in opposite directions, they kept looking back at each other, eye-to-eye, myself and a few of our friends called their names as we walked by to say “Have a good evening!” They did not hear a word we said, their eyes were gleaming – appearing as though both of  them were in a trance, as if they knew what the other was thinking — only seconds later — the distance between them evaporated — as they were back in an embrace — kissing passionately again. This was a REAL connection! Which example of connection would you want in your story – Real or False connections?

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Torn: An Emotion Your Characters Will Adore In Fiction Writing

Good evening! Have you ever experienced feeling “torn”? I witnessed someone battle with this emotion today, which jolted a memory of my own experience with it. Allow me to warn you, It is, by far, one of the most frustrating emotions for a human to experience – also one that is difficult to explain to someone who has never experienced it. I’ll give it a try…here goes… Ok, the closest I can get to describing being “torn” is “Imagine that you are faced with a decision — you experience the same emotion for both choices — at the same level of intensity – with the knowledge of a painful outcome no matter the direction of your decision.” Confusing, huh? This is how it ties to our writing. While this emotion is difficult to experience in our real, factual, world – it is excellent to allow your characters to experience it in the fiction world with your novel. This is the type of emotion that keep our readers engrossed in our stories. I would like to encourage you, fellow writers, to research this emotion, in-depth, and ‘connect’ with it to build great fiction stories.

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Learn The Value In Being An Authentic Writer

Good evening! Have you ever found yourself at an event, or a place that you attend on a regular basis, with a room full of people presenting themselves to be someone, or something, that you eventually learn they are not! I experienced this once with an author whom I had followed for a decade. When I finally had an opportunity to meet them, I immediately realized that I had set myself up for a large dose of disappointment because they were nothing like the person who wrote the pages that I had followed for ten years. O my! — I felt extremely confused! I kept wondering, after the exchange, “Did that author just write this stuff, without actually believing it? It’s non-fiction – it’s supposed to be factual!”  One of Webster’s definitions for authentic is “genuine” – meaning – “not counterfeit or artificial”. Hmmm…artificial is an interesting term, here’s what Webster offers for such a word, “not natural”…showing synonyms to be, “unreal” and “false”. Fellow writers, I extend this huge lesson from my experience – when you present pages to the public – be genuine! – be authentic! – always present yourself as who you are on the pages — to match who you are as a human being as you walk through your daily life. Unlike my experience, your fans will love you and support you for presenting your “authentic” self to them. Another bonus is that you will feel better at the end of every day because you are also being “true to yourself”.

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