Good evening! Staying focused on a writing project is a challenge! I discovered huge benefits in utilizing these four key skills with each of my writing commitments:
- High Self-Esteem: when my self-esteem is HIGH, I have full faith in my writing ability which allows my characters to trust me – this results in high performance from my characters.
- Self-Discipline: there are many distractions in the digital arena – as a writer, I had to learn how to turn OFF any distractions that threatened to steal my focus from the project. Just one distraction could steal that one word – or line – that could be the MASTERPIECE in my story. I constantly remind myself that I must keep my eye on the prize – the prize being “THE END”.
- Rhythm: Everyone has a high-volume knowledge of words – however, Quantity CANNOT be used solo on this journey – it needs a partner – that partner is DANCING – A writer must know how to make their large volume of words communicate in a manner that resembles dancing – not the kind of dancing where everyone is stepping on each others toes – lol. The kind of dancing that has a smooth rhythm and looks graceful as it is flowing across the stage (page) – telling a story in a manner that brings on observer (reader) to tears.
- Imagination: Yes, I think we inherit this at birth – however – as a writer, I learned that it is essential to craft this skill in a way that makes a story unique – original – to start with a seed (an idea) and grow it into a full-blown story with — a beginning – a middle – and an end. Experiencing this technique unfold in the mind – is absolutely AMAZING!
When I combine all four of these skills – my finished content feels unique. Would love to hear of the many other combinations that all of you amazing writers use to complete your writing projects.
Good evening! How easy is it for you to relinquish “control” in your life? Have you attempted? Was it easy? Difficult? Writing a novel is one of the best exercises to help you master this healthy step. For all you fellow perfectionists out there – I understand how difficult this step can be. As perfectionist, we have this theory that the only way something will meet our expectations is if we are always in the driver’s seat of every task we approach in our life — and I do mean e-v-e-r-y!! — I found that one essential step to resolving the “control” syndrome – is to allow yourself to release “control”. The process of writing a novel requires sharing control with our characters – which result in a story that last the length of a novel that has the ability to sustain our readers interest. Mastering this technique in writing takes effort, perseverance, physical and mental endurance, and patience – just to name a few skills. Ironically, it takes these very same skills to convince yourself that it is healthy to not always be in “control” mode. Think of many benefits we can gain by not needing to be in “control” of everything – gain time; build strong characters who perform well; gain compassion because we allow people to feel appreciated; learn to be humble because we realize that we do not have all the answers; learn acceptance because we let people be who they want to be rather than conforming to our demands of who we want them to be (important for our characters too); and gain insight because we learn that the only actions we can control are our own. Try to surrender control in just one small area of your life today and share the outcome with someone you trust.
Good evening! I was reminded today of an observation I made in the fall. A few teenagers were talking and one of them shared with the group, “I really like my mom!” This was a wonderful observation, to me, because she was speaking compassionately about her relationship with her mother without any concerns of how her peers would react…she continued her conversation, elaborating on why she liked her mom and expressed many positive attributes she admired in her mom. I understand why someone might say, “What’s the big deal about a kid saying something nice about their parent?” But, I have had a great opportunity to spend many years with a lot of teenagers, thus, allowing me to observed many of their verbal exchanges – I was able to make a fair comparison — many teens try to avoid their parents at this stage of their life, especially when they are with peers– not her – she was unique and courageous in sharing her feelings. Any parent would have been proud to learn that their child, willingly, shared such positive comments with her friends about them. I learned a great lesson from my observation that I was able to apply immediately to my writing. The lesson that was most beneficial – was how I learned a lot about her mother without needing to meet her because she described her so well in her expression. After this observation, I applied what I learned from this brave and compassionate child toward my character profiles. I added depth to my descriptions to help my readers get to know more about my characters. My goal is to increase the chance for my reader to bond with my characters.